You see, I have a bit of a philospohy to enjoy life and try to be with those you cheerish as much as possible. Well, lately I feel like I haven't been a good wife, sister, daughter, aunt, friend, etc. It may just be hormones, but it was brought to my attention it has been almost 4 months since I have spent time one on one with my nephews....yes, by my 11 year old nephew; not like he wanted to make me feel bad...but it just put things into perspective for me. And, when I did spend time with them; they were helping me take up my carpet. I can't do it all; and I can't juggle it all either! I have no clue the last time I went out with my Dad or Mom. This juggling act has also come down to time with my husband. I have realized, that both he and I agree and say yes to others much faster than really thinking about us...and it has been 3 months since he and I have actually gone on a date with each other; and with him and I working opposite shifts...it's a miracle, we've had the time to conceive....but of course we did find some time!
Well, about two weeks ago, while Sean was at work, he called me and it was like a phone call from the past- he asked me if I would like to go out on a date. So, this past Saturday, we went out to dinner and a movie; just Sean and I. It was great. I was in the kitchen and he asked me if I was ready? I said yes, and he said...don't move; I will be right back! So, I stayed put and he went outside; closed the door and rang the door bell. It was cute; a friendly reminder of how fast time does indeed fly by. We had a great night; despite the fact that we were both pretty quite because well, we were both tired.
I can't believe where I am in life, I love it....wouldn't change it for anything in the world...but just feel I need to learn this juggling thing a lot better. I have several friends who I haven't seen in months....maybe even a year since the last time I went out with them; yes, I know they too are busy....but e-mails aren't always enough.
So, is anyone out there who knows how I can learn how to balance all of this and a 45 hour work schedule?
5 comments:
Awww, sorry things are so rough! I'm glad you will get to spend time with your nephews for New Years, sounds like they miss you! What movie did you guys see Saturday? Have you seen Twilight yet?
I know its rough trying to balance work and your personal life. It's a constant battle, you just have to try to find a system that works for you. I wish there was some easy formula to tell you when to hang out with so-and-so to make things easier. Don't forget that when the baby is here, you can have a "time out" any time by asking "Auntie Amanda and Uncle Mike" to babysit. :-)
It's tough juggling a life. It's tough for me, too, & I'm not married or even dating, so I can only imagine what it's like for folks like you who have a "real life" to deal with. That said, you can only do your best - and you can make the most of otherwise less-than-ideal situations to spend time with the people you care about -- whether it's making up some game to go along with tearing up the carpet to turn it into something fun for your nephews or just talking to your mom & dad over coffee one day or doing errands together or something. Everybody's got to get stuff done - so sometimes it's the best time to take advantage of spending time with people. A coworker & I always go to the bank together to cash paychecks - it's not much, but its time we always have together, & we can count on it. Just gotta make the most & make do, right?
Hang in there, and don't let those hormones get the better of you. You're doing fine, I'm sure of it. :)
Merry almost-Christmas.
I got tears in my eyes when you told about your husband going outside and ringing the doorbell. That is so sweet!
Is it possible to set a day of the week or maybe once a month to have a family dinner at your house?
Your life is going to get even crazier once the baby gets here but remember things have changed now and your number one priorities are your family (your husband and baby). It is extremely hard to match up schedules in order to spend time with everyone. During those times when you are very busy you could always call your family and friends .... a nice chat on the phone can be just as warm.
Merry Christmas to you!
When you find the answer, please pass it on!!! Over the past year, I have really begun to understand how people go for months without talking to some of their best friends (something I used to be horrified by). Ryan and I have a few people we absolutely love in our life and we REALLY work to make sure we have time for them (a biweekly dinner date, or a weekly bible study, or just a phone call to say hi I've missed you.) However, I also have some very close friends who I didn't talk to all summer simply because life's crazy schedule really took over. When we finally got together for dinner, it was like no time had passed and when we briefly discussed our absences, all was forgiven and set aside. As we get older, the amount of things on our plates increases, but our plate stays the same size. We can only do what we can do. Things you used to do weekly may have to now be monthly. However, know that even if they aren't happening as often, their importance and significance looses none of it's potency!
Oh little sister...please, oh please, make sure that you and your hubby find time to connect at least once a day. Even if he's sitting on the potty! You are very fortunate to have a man who loves you for who you are and that helps so much!
We're both very lucky...remember, when this little blessing arrives...you need to find that balance between mommy, wife, and Lynsey. It's tough...we've been married 9 years and this year was the first year I have found something for ME!!! Don't lose who you are right now...we learn as women to wear many hats!
You're going to find time, you'll be great as a mommy...you're already a wonderful sister and wife! And Friend!! I love you little sis!!
Come visit me soon!! I want to see that baby bump!
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